Marriage is a sacred bond, and Ramadan is a sacred month. When the two come together, they create a beautiful opportunity for newlyweds to build a strong foundation for their relationship. But let’s be real Ramadan is not just about spirituality; it also brings physical and emotional challenges. Fasting, long prayers, changed routines, and emotional highs and lows can test even the strongest of bonds.
Understanding the Struggles of Newlyweds in Ramadan
How do you navigate this blessed month as a newlywed couple and come out stronger than ever?
Imagine that you and your spouse, are experiencing the first Ramadan together. The pre-dawn meal (Suhoor), the peaceful Iftar, the late-night Taraweeh prayers—it’s all new, exciting, and deeply spiritual. But with all the blessings, there can also be challenges. Adapting to each other’s habits, balancing worship with responsibilities, and ensuring your bond strengthens, not weakens, during this holy month.
Ramadan isn’t just about fasting from food; it’s about feeding the soul, refining character, and deepening relationships. And for newlyweds, it’s an opportunity to lay the foundation of a marriage built on love, understanding, and faith.
Here are some common struggles that newlywed couples face during Ramadan:
- Irritability from fasting – Hunger and thirst can lead to mood swings, making patience a challenge.
- Different Ramadan routines – One spouse may prefer long Taraweeh prayers, while the other may focus on reading the Quran at home.
- Family expectations – Balancing time between in-laws, extended family, and each other can be overwhelming.
- Spiritual differences – Varying levels of religious devotion may cause friction.
- Fatigue and energy levels – With altered sleep and eating schedules, energy levels fluctuate, leading to misunderstandings.
But here’s the good news: Ramadan also provides the perfect opportunity to strengthen your marriage. Let’s explore five powerful ways to do it.
👉 Build Emotional and Spiritual Intimacy Through Worship
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
“The best among you are those who are best to their wives.” (Tirmidhi 1162)
Ramadan is a time to grow spiritually, and what better way to do it than with your spouse? Praying together, reading the Quran, and making dua as a couple will not only increase your connection with Allah but also with each other.
How to Apply This?
- Pray together
Whether it’s Fajr, Isha, or Taraweeh, try to worship side by side.
- Read the Quran together
Choose a Surah to study and reflect upon its meanings.
- Make dua for each other
Pray for your spouse’s well-being, faith, and happiness.
- Encourage acts of kindness
Help each other perform good deeds like charity and community service.
By strengthening your relationship with Allah, you automatically strengthen your marriage.
👉 Communicate with Kindness and Patience
Fasting can make emotions run high. Small misunderstandings can quickly turn into arguments. The Quran reminds us:
وَقُولُوا لِلنَّاسِ حُسْنًا
“And speak to people kindly.” (Surah Al-Baqarah 2:83)
Kindness and patience should be the foundation of your marriage, especially in Ramadan.
How to Apply This?
- Pause before reacting
If you feel irritated, take a deep breath and remind yourself, “This is a test.”
- Use gentle words
Avoid blaming or raising your voice.
- Be mindful of your spouse’s needs
If your partner is exhausted, offer support instead of criticism.
- Set clear expectations
If you need alone time for worship or rest, communicate it respectfully.
A soft tone, kind words, and mutual respect can transform your relationship.
👉 Strengthen Your Bond Over Suhoor and Iftar
Ramadan meals are special. They bring families together, and for newlyweds, they create moments of love and connection.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) said:
تَسَحَّرُوا فَإِنَّ فِي السَّحُورِ بَرَكَةً
“Have suhoor, for in suhoor there is blessing.” (Bukhari 1923)
How to Apply This?
- Prepare meals together
Cooking as a couple strengthens teamwork and creates bonding moments.
- Break your fast together
Make it a habit to have Iftar together, even if one of you is busy.
- Practice gratitude
Before eating, express gratitude to Allah and each other.
- Avoid distractions
Keep phones away and focus on each other.
These shared moments build intimacy and reinforce the love between you. For professional and expert marital coaching for newlyweds, contact Ihsan Coaching. We offer coaching sessions whenever you need them.
👉 Respect Each Other’s Differences
No two people are the same, and in marriage, differences will always exist. One of you may love praying long Taraweeh at the masjid, while the other may prefer quiet reflection at home.
The Quran teaches us:
وَجَعَلْنَاكُمْ شُعُوبًا وَقَبَائِلَ لِتَعَارَفُوا
“And We have made you into nations and tribes so that you may know one another.” (Surah Al-Hujurat 49:13)
How to Apply This?
- Accept differences
Your spouse may practice Ramadan differently than you. Embrace it instead of resisting it.
- Find compromises
If one of you wants to pray at the mosque, agree on certain days for mosque prayers and others for home prayers.
- Be flexible
Adapt to each other’s habits and make space for personal worship.
Respecting differences strengthens a marriage and prevents unnecessary conflicts.
👉 Keep the Romance Alive in a Halal Way
Ramadan is a time of worship, but that doesn’t mean romance should take a backseat. Love and affection in a halal way are encouraged in Islam.
The Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) was affectionate with his wives even while fasting. Aisha (RA) said:
“The Prophet (peace be upon him) used to kiss and be intimate while fasting, but he was the most in control of himself.” (Bukhari 1927)
How to Apply This?
- Express love through words
A kind message, a heartfelt compliment, or a simple “I appreciate you” can go a long way.
- Engage in thoughtful gestures
A small gift, a handwritten note, or a helping hand in the kitchen can strengthen love.
- Show affection within limits
A gentle hug or holding hands after Iftar can enhance closeness.
- Make Eid special
Plan something meaningful to celebrate the end of Ramadan together.
Islam promotes love and affection in marriage. Don’t let Ramadan be an excuse to neglect your spouse’s emotional needs.
FAQs About Strengthening Your Marriage in Ramadan
⟶ Can newlyweds be intimate during Ramadan?
Yes, intimacy is allowed after Iftar until Suhoor. However, during fasting hours, couples should avoid any physical contact that could break their fast.
⟶ How can we resolve conflicts during fasting?
Practice patience, avoid raising your voice, and step away from an argument if emotions run high. Address issues calmly after Iftar.
⟶ What if my spouse and I have different Ramadan routines?
Respect each other’s preferences and find compromises. Support your spouse’s spiritual goals without forcing your routine on them.
⟶ How can we make Ramadan special as a newlywed couple?
Create meaningful traditions, such as reading a Surah together daily, cooking special meals, or giving charity as a couple.
⟶ How can Ihsan Coaching help newlywed couples in Ramadan?
Ihsan Coaching provides Islamic guidance and marital coaching for newlywed couples, helping couples navigate challenges, improve communication, and strengthen their bond in a faith-centered way.
Final Thoughts
Ramadan is an opportunity for newlywed couples to build love, patience, and spiritual growth together. By worshiping as a team, practicing patience, and keeping romance alive, you can strengthen your relationship in this blessed month.
May Allah bless your marriage and make Ramadan a time of unity and love!
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